Raptusinco! Part 3

Here we are again, having five things under the sun and everything! For this article, medyo pormal-pormal muna. Kailangan eh, we had people who need this atricle. Nakapagpromise kasi ako to help them, and so here it is...

My Raptusinco! for today is entitled The Pains and Joys of Letting Go and Moving On...

This issue may sound cliché to all people who have gone through many struggles in life, especially those who were into unsuccessful relationships and might be still going to the pains of the breakups – bitterness in simple terms. Nevertheless, I’m still sharing things here, for the sake of the neophytes and risk takers…

Sharing a love, I say, is the greatest feeling anyone can ever experience. Times when you’re together, holding each others hand, saying sweet nothings (although for the two of you it really seems something) are merely a fraction of what two people can do with the love they share. Sometimes, what drives two people to escape the rude world they are living is the new feeling of being loved and cared for. Yes, words will never describe the feeling… same as true when the time has come to end it.

Breakups are really painful, may you be the one who asked for it or the other party. It was never easy to lose something so special for you, for whatever reason it may be. The hurting feeling is just overwhelming us that we take some actions far from our rationality, from hysteria to suicide. But there is a catch. The pain may not go away that easily, but there are ways to live your life while on the process of healing.Here are some advices I can give for those broken hearted people.

1. Let Time Heal

Moving on can’t be done in an instant. It goes with time. Remember, anything done in haste may end in waste. This is the first choice, actually, let it heal or scratch the lacerations of a broken heart. The next entries are the things that may be done when time goes idle and the memories just keep coming;

2. Engage

Do the things you have forgotten. Enjoy the freedom. The world is just waiting for you, lots of activities you may want to try are just around the corner. Hug your pet, play net games or ballgames, stroll the mall, prepare a special recipe for your folks, strum the guitar, post something on the blog, ;) the list is endless… Just be creative and push yourself to do it. You might not know, you might be creating the best artwork, or the best song composition, or the recipe of a lifetime.

3. Have a life support system, and learn to be strong without them

Spend time with families and friends. For sure, they will always be there for you, ready to comfort you in these painful times. Tell them how you feel, cry those painful tears. But then, it’s not everyday you will be with these wonderful and loving people, so make the most out of your time with them. Have independence ready, because you never know when you might (heaven forbid) lose them.

4. Don’t get bitter… Learn

Memories will never leave you. They will always be in your mind. For the good memories, cherish it. For the bad memories, learn from it. You may never know, someday, somehow, these memories might help you for the future experiences, so keep it, don’t trash it. Try not being so general. Have those impressions in deductive reasons, at the least, or end up paranoid.

5. Always be open

Don’t close your heart; it should always be ready to love again. Don’t be afraid, because true and altruistic love will lead the way. Let God’s guidance be your light and your faith in Him your shield.

Back when I had my Friendster Blog, I strolled on different blogs. I came across one of my friends’ entry. He quoted these words:

"There is dignity in keeping someone you love, but there is more dignity in letting someone you love go.”

I was fascinated by the thought. The passage is right. Dignity comes with freedom. There is no other love better than offering something to the other person without asking anything in return. Letting go is synonymous to true love… unselfish love…

Ayan, five things under the sun, kung may mga suggestion kayo na ilagay dito, gawa lang kayo ng list, basta lima lang, and state the common denominator in each. Ang mga tinuran dito ay para lamang pagkatuwaan, kaya wag seryosohin. Tandaan, ang tamaan, (sabay tapik sa noo) GUILTY!