"Collect and collect, and then select"
That's today's trend, get the best people around you, mingle with them, spend time with, MAKE LOVE with, (Gosh!) in other words, know them. Physically (Ilan ba hibla ng buhok nya sa kilikile, kailan pa sya huling naggupit ng buhok sa ilong) emotionally (sabay ba tumulo ang luha at uhog nya kapag umiiyak, nasesenti ba sya kapag nanoond sya ng Bubble Gang) socially (mahilig ba sya magpormang taong grasa kapag aatend ng ball) financially (needless to say) and sometimes, kung deep interaction talaga, spiritually (may tindahan ng rebulto sa loob ng bahay). Yes, this is a way to pick the one you want to spend your life with.
But there's a catch...
Isn't it that the more people we interact with, the lesser the chances we can choose? From all attributes we are being exposed to (unfortunately), the more refined ourselves are... and so is our standards. It is but very normal to live with the standards we make, that's the human nature anyway. But the more refined tour standards become, the harder is to find the person with it. Most singles wouldn't just risk having someone short for their wants, the reason singlehood is the greatest force of nature. (What was that???) The common saying "It boils down to preferences" is but a manifestation of these. The question is, where does our preferences lead us? What happens when we place our standards in front? We keep on looking... fantasizing... Taking trial and errors could be an alternative, but when does the right equation comes out?
I guess the right saying should go like this:
But there's a catch...
Isn't it that the more people we interact with, the lesser the chances we can choose? From all attributes we are being exposed to (unfortunately), the more refined ourselves are... and so is our standards. It is but very normal to live with the standards we make, that's the human nature anyway. But the more refined tour standards become, the harder is to find the person with it. Most singles wouldn't just risk having someone short for their wants, the reason singlehood is the greatest force of nature. (What was that???) The common saying "It boils down to preferences" is but a manifestation of these. The question is, where does our preferences lead us? What happens when we place our standards in front? We keep on looking... fantasizing... Taking trial and errors could be an alternative, but when does the right equation comes out?
I guess the right saying should go like this:
The more you collect, the harder you select!!
Lasting and successful relationships, as I have observed, come with stability rather than with quality. Standards are not fully met, but the imperfections are made to complement each other, coupled with commitment. Most relationship end up because there is this 'used up feeling' that comes. The need is done and so the relationship must be ended. This is but sometimes too cliche, right?
Just some thoughts...
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